When dreams clash with reality 

When do our childhood dreams become disconnected from our adult reality?

Alan and I spent this weekend celebrating my fabulous cousin and her sweet new husband at a beautiful ceremony around St. Augustine, Florida. 

On the way home, we stopped at Arby’s for lunch. Our cashier had a far off distant look in her eyes. She seemed distracted and discouraged. And it hurt my heart. 

But, I can’t blame her for her discouragement. What little girl dreams of working a fast food counter when she grows up? I bet you didn’t. 

As we left the gas station, a rugged- looking man was slumped at the bottom of a stop sign finishing up his sack lunch. 

I couldn’t help but wonder, when do we let go of our childhood dreams and settle for a subpar reality? 

Is it a lack of education, support or personal drive? I’m sure this plays a part, but more significantly I think it’s a lack of hope; of not seeing our value in being created by a loving Father; of not knowing exactly where to go or how to get there.

Truth is, our great country is full of opportunity: for better or for worse.

Yes, it is hard to improve ourselves, our relationships or our finances. It takes a significant amount of intentionality, bravery and a denying of self that feels very unnatural. It is counter-culture and sometimes means making progress by taking two steps forward and one step back. But, at the end of the day, you have still moved ahead. 

What did you dream of when you were little? 

I wanted a happy marriage, a few kids and plenty of money to serve others and have some- okay, a lot!- of fun. Oh! And I wanted to be a kindergarten teacher…um, it’s not for me. Two out of four ain’t bad…we’re working on that money thing! 

How does your reality compare to your dreams…and what are you going to do about it?